The festive season is often painted as a time of joy, connection, and celebration. But for someone facing their first Christmas without a loved one, it can feel anything but. The workplace, as a significant part of a person’s daily life, has an important role to play in supporting a colleague through what might be an emotionally challenging time. So, how can we create an environment that feels compassionate, understanding, and supportive during the lead-up to Christmas?
The first step in supporting a colleague is to acknowledge their loss. This doesn’t mean making grand gestures or regularly bringing up the subject, but rather offering a simple and heartfelt acknowledgment: “I know this time of year might feel different for you. Please let me know if there’s anything I can do to support you.” This small act of recognition can let your colleague know they are seen.
Workplaces often dive headfirst into festive activities decorating the office, organising Secret Santa, or hosting Christmas parties. While these traditions are great for boosting morale, they can inadvertently feel overwhelming or isolating for someone who is grieving. Invite your colleague to participate but ensure it’s clear there’s no pressure. Some may welcome the invite so it’s important to make sure they aren’t left out.
Support in the workplace doesn’t always need to be formal. Sometimes, it’s the little things that make the biggest difference:
Check in regularly: A casual “How are you doing?” shows you care.
Offer flexibility: If possible, allow them to adjust their workload or work hours if they’re finding things particularly hard.
Create space for quiet moments: Providing a quiet room or space where they can take a breather can be a lifeline during emotional moments.
Encourage open conversations
It’s important to normalise discussions about grief. If you’re in a managerial position or have influence over the team culture, consider setting the tone by being open about supporting one another through life’s challenges and highlight difficult times of year. This might mean encouraging colleagues to seek support if needed perhaps through the companies EAP or simply by reminding the whole team that it’s okay not to feel “merry and bright” all the time. Let them know you are there to help where possible.
Respect their wishes: Everyone grieves differently. Some people might want to throw themselves into work and festive activities as a distraction, while others may need to pull back and keep things low-key. The key is to follow their lead and not make assumptions about what they need.
Plan ahead: For some, the lead-up to Christmas is harder than the day itself. Discussing this early can help reduce uncertainty and stress, talk with your colleague about what might help:
Are there any tasks or deadlines they’d like help with?
Would they appreciate a lighter workload closer to Christmas?
Would they like the option to work from home?
Encourage some self-care: Encourage your colleague to take time for themselves and do something that brings them comfort. You could even make it a team effort by introducing a wellbeing advent calendar. Each day could feature a simple self-care idea, like watching a feel-good movie, enjoying their favourite treat, or taking a refreshing walk. This approach not only supports them but also promotes a culture of care and mindfulness for the entire team during a busy and often emotional time of year.
Ultimately, supporting a grieving colleague isn’t about having all the answers or saying the perfect thing. It’s about creating a workplace culture where they feel valued, understood, and supported. By approaching the season with compassion and flexibility, we can help make this difficult time a little more manageable for them and show that they’re not facing it alone.